“Why me?”

If you’ve ever suffered from absence of period for a long time and maybe going through Hypothalamic Amenorrhea, I know you have whispered (or shouted) this question in the shower, in bed, on your yoga mat, or while staring at your empty period app wondering what you are doing wrong.

Why does this happen to me… while so many women are exercising more, eating less, pushing harder and yet their cycles are regular as a German clock?

Trust me, I asked myself this exact question hundreds of times.

Maybe you’ve asked it too.

And yes… it’s heartbreaking, confusing, and frustrating.
But after years of deep self-exploration — and now supporting women through HA every single day — I can confidently say:

Let’s bring this to life through a simple story.
Let’s imagine two women, both 32 years old.
Both born in the same city.
Both got their first period at age 14.

We’ll call them Jennifer and Tina.

One has never missed a cycle in her life.
The other hasn’t bled in two years.

Jennifer has always had a loving relationship with food.
She enjoys eating, savoring, sharing meals with her family. Food was never a battlefield, it was connection, culture, pleasure.

She’s always moved her body too.
She started dancing at 8, contemporary at first, then salsa. She even teaches dance on weekends.

Her main job as a lawyer? Stressful, yes.
But she knows it’s stressful, so she rests deeply.
She sleeps 8 hours, listens to her hunger, and always creates moments of joy and disconnection at the weekend.

Her digestion? Strong and steady.
Her inner fire — her Agni — has always been robust.

Her body feels safe.

Tina’s story is different.

She suffered from mild anorexia as a young teenager — right when her body desperately needed nourishment to grow and build strong reproductive tissues.

At 12 she was already restricting food and exercising intensely through dance and swimming.

At 20, when she went abroad, she stopped moving as much but her digestion collapsed. IBS appeared. Pain, bloating, confusion. So she tried diet after diet, vegan, keto, low-FODMAP, fasting, juices, you name it.

Nothing felt stable.

Then she joined HIIT.
Once a week at first… then three times a week.
Add cardio. Add weights. Add more pressure.

And honestly? It helped her cope with stress.

Because her job, manager of a busy city-center restaurant was intense.
Weekends working, long physical shifts, endless responsibilities, sometimes only one day off.

She was exhausted…
but still woke up early for the gym, because gaining weight was not an option. Success depended on staying “disciplined.”

Her sleep was irregular.
Her stress constant.
Her nourishment inconsistent.
Her digestion messy.

Do you feel the difference?

One woman prioritizes rest, joy, pleasure, connection.

The other prioritizes performance, control, achievement, perfection… at the cost of her body’s safety.

When Jennifer feels stressed, she eats, sleeps, and restores.

When Tina feels stressed, she pushes harder.

Both are stressed — but only one restores safety afterward.

HA is not about willpower.
It’s not about discipline.
It’s not about “doing things right.”

It’s about safety.

Your endocrine system, your hormones, only function when your body feels safe enough to reproduce.

And here is the truth nobody tells you:

In a moment of danger, cortisol shoots up. You run.
Even if you’re exhausted, hungry, dehydrated, you run.

Now imagine running… all the time.
Not from a lion, but from:

• Strict diets
• Over-exercising
• Chronic job pressure
• Perfectionism
• Anxiety
• Lack of rest
• Digestive weakness
• Fear of gaining weight
• Emotional stress
• Never slowing down

Your brain does not see a difference.
Stress is stress.

And the first system to shut down?

Not your heart.
Not your lungs.

Your reproductive system.

Because biologically, reproduction is optional.
Survival is not.